When I first had Joey I thought to myself, how am I ever going to leave him. How will I ever be able to let him go for an entire day. I now blame that thinking on hormones.
I LOVE going to work everyday. Love it. And if that makes me a bad mom in your eyes, then so be it. I however, think it makes me a better mom. By taking myself away from everything baby, I enable my battery to recharge and my Joey love tank to be refilled. I miss him so much at work and I LOVE coming home to him. I can't say I would be as enthused with him if I had to spend all day, every day with him. And, I am not going to feel bad about that. Knowing myself as well as I do, I know I need to feel like I've used my brain at least a dozen times a day, or even talked to at least 5 grown ups in a 24 hour period. If I didn't go to work and do that I would be miserable, and a horrible and bitter mommy.
Plus, I know Joey has already gained so much from daycare. I don't quite understand the stigma that comes with putting your child in daycare, and I can't even begin to try and understand it, but I see the looks, I know what you're thinking. Daycare....ewww. Joey loves daycare though, so suck it. Much to my dismay, he has girlfriends that wave to him every night and say "bye Joey." He gets to be around a learn from children all day...thats something I can't give to him unless I (yikes) have more kids. And, we won't even get started on that scary road.
Long story short. I think stay at home moms are saints. I think moms who go to work are also saints. You do what you got to do to make your family work. And what makes our family work is mommy and daddy working, and the bubbaritto in daycare with his girlfriends.